SIngle vs. Taken

Jodoh tiada kaitan dengan keturunan. Hanya belum sampai masanya. Ia bagai menanti jambatan untuk keseberang. Kalau panjang jambatannya, jauhlah perjalanan kita. Ada orang jodohnya cepat sebab jambatannya singkat.

Usia 25 tahun rasanya belumlah terlalu lewat. Dan usia 35 tahun belum apa-apa kalau sepanjang usia itu telah digunakan untuk membina kecemerlangan. Nyatakanlah perasaan dan keinginan anda dalam doa-doa lewat solat. Allah itu Maha Mendengar.

Wanita baik untuk lelaki yang baik, sebaliknya wanita jahat untuk lelaki yang jahat. Yakinlah pada janji-Nya kerana kita orang yang beriman. Biar lambat jodoh asalkan mendapat Mr. Right dan biar seorang diri daripada menjadi mangsa lelaki yang tidak beriman kemudian nanti.

Memang kita mudah tersilap mentafsir kehidupan ini. Kita selalu sangka, aku pasti bahagia kalau mendapat ini. Hakikatnya, apabila kita benar-benar mendapat apa yang kita inginkan itu, ia juga datang bersama masalah.

Kita juga selalu melihat orang memandu kereta mewah dan terdetiklah dihati kita, alangkah bahagianya orang itu. Hakikatnya, apabila kita sendiri telah memiliki kereta mewah, kita ditimpa pelbagai karenah. Tidak mustahil pula orang yang memandu kereta mewah terpaksa membayar lebih tatkala berhenti untuk membeli durian di tepi jalan.

Ketika anda terperangkap dalam kesesakan jalan raya, motosikal mencelah-celah hingga mampu berada jauh dihadapan. Anda pun mengeluh, alangkah baiknya kalau aku hanya menunggang motosikal itu dan cepat sampai ke tempat yang dituju. Padahal si penunggang motosikal sedang memikirkan bilakah dia akan memandu kereta.

Bukan semua yang anda sangka membahagiakan itu benar-benar membahagiakan. Bahagianya mungkin ada tapi deritanya juga datang sama. Semua benda pasti ada baik dan buruknya.

Demikian juga perkahwinan.

Ia baik sebagai saluran yang betul untuk melepaskan syahwat tapi ramai juga orang yang berkahwin hidupnya semakin tidak terurus. Ramai orang menempah neraka sebaik melangkahkan kaki kea lam berumahtangga.

Bukankah dangan ijab dan Kabul selain menghalalkan hubungan kelamin, tanggungjawab yang terpaksa dipikul juga turut bertambah? Bukankah apabila anda gagal melaksanakannya, anda membina dosa seterusnya jambatan ke neraka?

Berapa ramaikah yang menyesali perkahwinan padahal dahulunya mereka bermati-matian membina janji, memupuk cinta kasih malah ada yang sanggup berkorban apa sahaja asal impian menjadi nyata?

Jika tidak sanggup bergelar isteri tidak usah berkahwin dulu. Jika merasakan diri belum cukup ilmu bergelar ibu ayah, belajarlah dulu. Jika belum bersedia untuk bersabar dengan karenah anak-anak, carilah dulu kesabaran itu.

Jangan berkahwin dahulu sebab kenyataannya ramai yang tidak bersedia untuk melangkah tetapi setelah melompat, akhirnya jatuh terjerumus dan tidak jumpa akar berpaut tatkala cuba mendaki naik.

Berkahwin itu indah dan nikmat bagi yang benar-benar mengerti segala tuntutannya. Berkahwin itu menjanjikan pahala tidak putus-putus bagi yang menjadikannya gelanggang untuk menjadikan syurga sebagai matlamat. Berkahwin itu sempadan dari ketidaksempurnaan insan kepada kesempurnaan insan – bagi yang mengetahui rahsia-rahsianya.

Berkahwinlah demi Tuhan dan Nabi-Nya, bukan kerana perasaan dan mengikut kebiasaan. Jodoh usah terlalu dirisaukan, tiba masanya ia akan datang menjemput, namun perlu juga anda membuka lorong-lorongnya agar jemputan itu mudah sampai.

Kadangkala Allah sembunyikan matahari, Dia datangkan petir dan kilat. Kita menangis dan tertanya-tanya, kemana menghilangnya sinar. Rupa-rupanya Allah nak hadiahkan kita pelangi.

Cinta yang disemadikan tidak mungkin layu selagi ada imbas kembali. Hati remuk kembali kukuh selagi ketenangan dikecapi. Jiwa yang pasrah bertukar haluan selagi esok masih ada. Parut lama pastikan sembuh selagi iman terselit di dada.

Kekayaan yang paling kaya adalah akal, kemiskinan yang paling besar adalah jahil, keburukan yang paling hodoh adalah sesat. Tidak berguna adanya mata andai tidak dapat melihat, tak guna adanya hati kalau tak tahu menilai.

Nilailah hati itu dengan teliti sebelum pergi mengundur diri kerana segalanya bermula dengan niat yang bertempat di hati.

Pesanan Utk Perempuan Cantik

Setiap orang adalah unik. Setiap orang ada kelebihan dan kekekurangannya yang tertentu. Tidak ada manusia yang sempurna kecuali Rasululluh s.a.w kerana baginda telah ditentukan maksum. Selebihnya tidak terkecualai daripada sifat lemah, buruk, hina, sakit san bermacam-macam perkara lagi. Anda tidak perlu berasa susah hati lantaran gemuk, tidak menarik, terlalu rendah malah cacat. Biar bagaimana keadaan anda, anda tetap unik dan tanpa anda alam ini tidak sempurna.

Memang ALLAH menjadikan manusia pelbagai rupa dan gaya. Disitulah berkuasanya ALLAH. Dia berhak dan mampu berbuat apa saja mengikut kehendak-Nya. Kita memang tidak ada pilihan untuk mempersoal itu ini, mempertikai itu ini. Anda mungkin berasa rendah hati melihat kekurangan-kekurangan yang ada pada diri anda.

Nah, anggap ia satu kelebihan. Jika anda sangka anda buruk, ia satu kelebihan yang tiada pada orang cantik. Anda sangka kecantikan sentiasa membawa untung? Tidak, tidak selalunya begitu. Kadang-kadang kecantikan memusnahkan. Setelah anda dikenali sebagai cantik, ketakutan anda terhadap keburukan lebih besar daripada jika anda semulajadinya buruk. Orang cantik fobia menjadi buruk. Setiap kedutan di wajah akan dirawat dan setiap kedutan begitu menyusahkan dirinya. Saat menjadi buruk pasti tiba, bagaimanakah perasan si cantik meghadapi hari tua mereka? Bukankah rasa susah yang tiada kesudahan?

Kadang-kadang seekor semut diberikan sayap oleh ALLAH supaya dia boleh terbang dan menerjah api. Samalah halnya, kadang-kadang seseorang manusia itu diberikan kecantikan supaya dengan kecantikan itu dia boleh berbuat sebanyak-banyak mungkar untuk diberikan balasan setimpal di Akhirat. Tontonlah filem atau drama-drama di TV. Kisah hidup orang cantik selalunya penuh duri. Jika anda buruk setidak-tidaknya anda bebas rasa riak dan takbur. Penghuni neraka kebanyakkannya wanita sebagaimana disabdakan Rasullah s.a.w wanita itu tentu yang cantik tapi gagal memahami untuk apa kecantikan itu diberikan ALLAH kepadanya. Dan wanita itu tidak terkecuali juga yang buruk sebab dia berterus-terusan saja mempertikaikan kerja TUHAN.

Siapakah wanita penghuni syurga itu, barangkali yang cantik dan dia sentiasa faham kecantikan itu ukuran manusia . Cantik pada pandanagn ALLAH adalah ketaatannya terhadap semua perintah dan laragan ALLAH. Barangkali juga yang buruk tapi dia faham ALLAH tidak memandang rupa paras tapi apa yang ada di dalam hatinya. Wahai orang cantik, orang buruk, orang rendah, orang cacat, semuanya itu hanyalah ukuran manusia dan ukuran manuisa selalunya sasar. Hargai diri anda sebab kewujudan anda mambuktikan kekuasaan ALLAH!

Aku Tinggalkan Dia Demi Allah

Dengan nama Allah
Sebaik-baik Pemberi Ganjaran
...
Namamukah yang tertulis di luh mahfuz sana?
Engkaukah yang bakal menemaniku jalan menuju syurga?
Dirimukah yang akan melengkapkan separuh dari agamaku?
Aduhai pria.
Adakah kau yang tercipta untukku?
Jawab pertanyaanku ini.
Jawab!

Kau takkan pernah dapat memberi jawapan
Kerna jawapannya bukan di tanganmu
Tetapi di tanganNya.
Di tangan Tuhan kita; Allah
Tuhanku dan Tuhanmu

Gelisahku memikirkan dirimu
Dan ketakutanku memikirkan Tuhanku
Aduhai pria
Maafkan aku.
Ketakutanku pada Tuhanku melebihi kegelisahanku memikirkanmu

Jemput diriku pabila waktunya tiba
Sebelum sampai saat itu, biarkan aku sendiri bersama Si Dia
Akan kucipta cinta bersama Dia
Sebelum kucipta cinta antara kita

Jadilah dirimu kumbang yang hebat
Dan doakan aku agar menjadi bunga yang mekar

"i've leave him for the sake of Allah"

Sesungguhnya Allah takkan pernah mensia-siakan pengorbananmu sayang
Bilamana kita tinggalkan semua ini kerana Allah semata
Yakinlah!
Akan ada sesuatu yang indah untukmu di pengakhiran nanti

Dan sesungguhnya hari kemudian
itu lebih baik bagimu
daripada yang sekarang (permulaan).
Dan kelak Tuhanmu
pasti memberikan karunia-Nya kepadamu ,
lalu (hati) kamu menjadi puas.
[Ad dhuha: 4 & 5]

Untuk itu
Aku tinggalkan dirimu padaNya

Sesungguhnya
 aku bertawakkal
kepada Allah Tuhanku dan Tuhanmu.
Tidak ada suatu binatang melata
melainkan Dia-lah yang memegang ubun-ubunnya.
Sesungguhnya Tuhanku di atas jalan yang lurus.
(Allah Maha Adil)
[Hud: 56]




usah bersedih atas perpisahan sementara ini
jika benar dia tercipta untukmu
tiada apa yang dapat menghalangnya
sebelum saat itu tiba
berdoalah pada Allah moga diberi kekuatan
mohonlah padanya dengan penuh mengharap


Yakinlah pada janji Allah!

Wanita-wanita yang keji adalah untuk laki-laki yang keji, dan laki-laki yang keji adalah buat wanita-wanita yang keji (pula), dan wanita-wanita yang baik adalah untuk laki-laki yang baik dan laki-laki yang baik adalah untuk wanita-wanita yang baik (pula). Mereka (yang dituduh) itu bersih dari apa yang dituduhkan oleh mereka (yang menuduh itu). Bagi mereka ampunan dan rezki yang mulia (surga)
[An Nur: 26]

Beruntunglah kamu !
tatkala Allah memilihmu untuk menyedari hakikat perhubungan antara lelaki dan wanita
Allah memilihmu sayang
Jangan pernah sia-siakan kasih sayang Allah ini

maka Allah mengilhamkan kepada jiwa itu (jalan) kefasikan dan ketakwaannya
 sesungguhnya beruntunglah orang yang mensucikan jiwa itu
dan sesungguhnya merugilah orang yang mengotorinya
[ As Syams: 8-10]

Sesungguhnya orang-orang yang mengatakan:
"Tuhan kami ialah Allah"
kemudian mereka meneguhkan pendirian mereka,
maka malaikat akan turun kepada mereka dengan mengatakan:
"Janganlah kamu takut dan janganlah merasa sedih;
dan gembirakanlah mereka
dengan jannah yang telah dijanjikan Allah kepadamu
[Fussilat:30]

Dan tika kamu merasa lemah
Mohonlah kekuatan dariNya
Allah itu dekat
yakin pasti

Dan jika syaitan mengganggumu dengan suatu gangguan,
maka mohonlah perlindungan kepada Allah.
Sesungguhnya Dia-lah yang Maha Mendengar lagi Maha Mengetahui
[Fussilat:36]



Sayang,
kamu intan terpilih
jagalah kilauanmu sayang
jangan biarkan sang kumbang merosakkannya sebelum yang halal tiba
aku mendoakanmu
sentiasa

~

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Life is just a Fleeting Dream

It strikes me this morning as I drove to work. At the moment life seems so unbearable..Sometimes I feel so low that I have no regret leaving this wordly life and come back to the Creator. Astaghfirullah...Been pondering upon life, the past, present and the unknown future. It has been full with ups and downs which is frustrating at some parts of it. The people around and negativity that pushes me away from the true meaning of life, I lost my faith towards the greater good. It scary to even think of it. There are times where I started to argue about life.

Why good things happen to bad people and why bad things happen to good people? Why do we suffer? Why do ‘bad’ things happen to ‘good’ people? How could there be a God if innocent children starve and criminals run free? How can there be an all-loving, all-powerful deity who would allow such misfortunes to happen? And if God is indeed Just and Good, shouldn’t only good things happen to good people and only bad things happen to bad people?

Well, the answer is: yes. Absolutely. Only good things do happen to good people. And only bad things happen to bad people. Why? Because God IS the Most Just and the Most Loving. And He has no deficiency in His knowledge or understanding. But after moments of deep thoughts, I come to realize that this dunya including fame, wealth, family, friends etc is just a mere dream, it means nothing. But what matters is the life after. The eternity.

Thus life (dunya) is only a dream whether its a bad or a good dreams.  For a moment, it overtakes me. Yet the suffering in the nightmare is only an illusion. Temporary. Like the blink of an eye. Why do people dream? Why do people have to feel that loss, fear, and sadness in their sleep? But it fades after they woke or at least takes a little moment to get over it.

On a greater scale, it’s a question that has been asked throughout time. And for many people, the answer to that question has determined their path to or away from faith.  Faith in God, faith in life’s purpose, faith in a higher order or a final destination has often all rested upon how this singular question has been answered. And so, to ask this question is to ask about life, in the most ultimate  way.

The problem is that we do have deficiencies in knowledge and understanding. See, to understand the statement “only good things happen to good people and only bad things happen to bad people”, we must first define ‘good’ and ‘bad’.  And although there are as many definitions of good and bad as there are people, a comprehensive understanding exists. For example, most people would agree that to succeed in achieving my desired purpose or goal in a particular matter would be ‘good’. While on the other hand, failing to achieve my intended purpose or aim would be bad. If my aim is to gain weight because I am dangerously underweight, becoming heavier would be good. If, on the other hand, my aim is to lose weight because I am harmfully overweight, becoming heavier would be bad. The same event could be good or bad, depending on my intended purpose. So ‘good’ in my eyes rests on the achievement of my personal aim. And ultimate ‘Good’ rests on the achievement of my ultimate aim.

But what is my aim? That brings us to the fundamental question of purpose as it relates to the greater Reality of existence. There are essentially two distinct worldviews when it comes to purpose in life.

1. Worldview holds that this life is the Reality, the final destination and ultimate goal of our endeavors.
2. Worldview holds that this life is only a bridge, a means that stands as nothing more than a glimpse in the context of God’s infinite Reality.

For those in the first group, this life is everything. It is the End to which all actions strive. For those in the second group, this life tends towards zero. Why? Because, in comparison to infinity, even the largest number becomes zero. Nothing.  Like a fleeting dream.

These distinct worldviews directly affect the question of purpose. See, if one believes that this life is the Reality, the final destination, the goal of all endeavors, the purpose of life would be to maximize pleasure and gain in this life.  In that paradigm, ‘bad’ things ARE in fact happening to ‘good’ people every single second. Within that paradigm, people reach the conclusion that there is no justice and therefore either there is no God or God is not Just (wa athu billah, I seek refuge in God). It’s like a person who concludes that there must be no God because they had a bad dream. But why don’t we give the experiences of our dreams much weight? After all, some dreams are horrifying to live through—and very often do happen to ‘good’ people.  In our dreams, do we not experience extreme terror or bliss? Yes. But why doesn’t it matter? Because put in context of our real life, it is nothing!

In the second world view (the Islamic paradigm) the purpose of creation is *not* maximizing pleasure and gain in a life that is nothing more than a dream. In that world view, life’s purpose is defined by God who tells us: “I have not created jinn and humans (for any purpose) except to worship me,” (Qur’an, 51:56).

 First Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala (exalted is He) negates ALL other purposes before He states the one and only, singular purpose:  ‘except to worship Me.’ This means that as a believer I know that there is no other purpose of my existence except to know, love and get closer to God. This is the one and only reason why I was created. And this is the most essential realization, as it defines everything else I do or believe. It defines all things around me, and everything I experience in life.

In a relative sense, for those whose goal is this material world, worldly things define their ‘good’ and ‘bad’. For them, things like gaining wealth, status, fame, or property is necessarily ‘good’.  Losing wealth, status, fame, or property is necessarily ‘bad’. So in that paradigm, when an innocent person loses every material possession they own, this is a ‘bad’ thing happening to a ‘good’ person. But that is the illusion that comes as a result of a flawed worldview. When the lens itself is distorted, so too is the image seen through it.

For those of the second worldview, anything that brings us closer to our purpose of nearness to God’s love is good; and anything that takes us away from that purpose is bad. Therefore, winning a billion dollars may be the greatest calamity ever to happen to me if it takes me away from God—my ultimate purpose. On the other hand, losing my job, all my wealth, and even falling ill, may in fact be the greatest blessing ever given to me if it brings me closer to God—my ultimate purpose.  This is the Reality that is spoken about in the Qur’an when Allah (swt) says:

“It may happen that you hate a thing which is good for you, and it may happen that you love a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows, you know not,” (2:216).

As a believer, my criterion is no longer gain or loss in a material sense. My criterion is something higher. What I have or do not have in a worldly sense is only relevant in as much as it brings me closer or farther from my Aim: God. This dunya (life) becomes nothing more than that dream that I experience for a moment and then awaken from. Whether that dream was good or bad for me, depends only on my state once I awaken.

And so on the ultimate scale there is perfect justice. God only gives good (nearness to Him) to good people, and bad (distance from Him) to bad people. The greatest good is nearness to God, in this life and the next. And it is only ‘good’ people who are blessed with this. That is why the Prophet ﷺ has said: “Strange is the case of a believer, there is good for him in everything—and this is only for the believer. If a blessing reaches him, he is grateful to God, which is good for him, and if an adversity reaches him, he is patient which is good for him,” (Muslim).

As this hadith (record of the sayings or actions of the Prophet ﷺ) explains, whether something is good or bad is not defined by how it appears externally. “Goodness”, as explained by this hadith, is defined by the good internal state that it produces: patience and gratitude—both manifestations of peace with and nearness to God.

On the other hand, the greatest calamity is distance from God—in this life and the next. And it is only ‘bad’ people who are punished with this. What such ‘distanced’ people have, or do not have of wealth or status or property or fame is only an illusion—no more real or important than having, or not having, these things in the greatest dream, or the worst nightmare.

Of these illusions Allah (swt) says: “Nor strain your eyes in longing for the things We have given for enjoyment to parties of them, the splendor of the life of this world, through which We test them: but the provision of thy Lord is better and more enduring,” (Qur’an, 20:131).

The enduring life is the one that begins once we awaken from this world. And it is in that awakening that we realize…

It was only a dream.

Let's Talk About Heart

After a few rounds of procrastination, well today I finally have the time to write about something that I have always wanted to write. To some it's nothing but a trivial matter. But for me, it is something  I feel very important to all of us regardless of our age, status, gender, believe etc. So Let's Talk About Heart..

Well no doubt, there are so many things in life if we ponder upon it clearly and deeply,consist of things which we cant see, hold, and smell. Its invisible. Looking at it in other perspective, its encircle almost a major portion of our life. But I am just going to touch about the invisible things that occurred in our heart despite the function of filtering toxic and residues from our blood streams. There's a saying:

"Ada seketul daging  dalam badan kita, jika baik daging itu itu, baiklah kita". 

Taking a reality check, if we can see the invisible things in our hearts, we can clearly see that has been cluttered with anger, hatred, jealousy, revenge, and Subhannallah other negative innate characters. That is why we see everyday in our daily life crimes, suicide, divorces in consequence of this filthy hearts. I would like to share some interesting notions about heart from our ulama's.

Ulama berkata, 3 cara membersihkan hati:

1. Banyakkan membaca Al-Quran dan tafsirannya serta amalkan;
2. Banyakkan beribadah, sembahyang, berzakat dan amal-amal yang membawa kita mendapat keredhaan-Nya;
3. Banyakkan berfikir tentang hari kematian dan pembalasan.

But if we cant find the hearts that we want, we are encouraged to "pray" for a new heart. So, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. We have to seek for it not waiting for it. InsyaAllah, Allah is Most Gracious and Merciful. 

Other than that we are reminded to be Istiqamah in everything that we do (good deeds). Its easier said than done, especially for a normal human like us. We ofthen forget and lost in the worldly happiness, wealth, health, beauty and fame. But remember this is all temporary. Everything that we have is by God's will. It will come to an end one day. We never know when we will leave this world and what's left is our Ibadah, Iman, and good deeds. So we must always try to keep our heart clean, avoid anything that can hinder us to get God's blessings and be a faithful Moslim. Another interesting saying i find it very inspiring:

Seberapa desar rumah, harta benda dan kekayaan di dunia ini, 

di kubur hanya tanah, sekeping papan dan batu bata menhimpit liang yang sempit:

Seberapa cantik dan mahal pakaian kita di dunia, 

di kubur kita hanya dibaluti kain kafan yang berharga beberapa ringgit semeter,

Seberapa ramai teman-teman, ahli keluarga dan kenalan kita di dunia ini, 

di kubur kita hanya seorang diri..

Astaghfirullah...